"Can't you find a guy?"

When I tell people I haven’t dated or been in a relationship in a while what I usually get is: “OMG, you’re so pretty! I don’t know why you can’t find a man!”. 

Find a man?! I can find men! Yep, plural. I can find a man, a ‘boyfriend’, I can find a cuddle buddy, I can find s*x anywhere in a snap of fingers. Look at me and you can picture what my DMs and texts might look like. And I don’t even have to try to convince them of my worth by sharing a whole #imjustme post.

I’m not bragging about myself at all. I don’t need to because that’s #notme. What I’m talking about is a partner, not a... guy. 

I’m getting older, life might get harder eventually and I want that guy who’s going to be a ride or die. What I’m looking for is a partner who’s going to be there, emotionally for me, when my parents pass away, for example. I look for a man who’s willing to bond with me and learn things about me, he doesn’t have to like them. I’m looking for the man who’s the best partner for me personally. I will get all his quirks and he will get all mine. I know he’s not going to be perfect because I’m not perfect either, but he’s going to be perfect for me.

So next time I say that I’m looking for partnership, but I haven’t found one yet, don’t ask me “Why can’t you find a guy?”. I can find a guy, but differently from many, I really don’t settle for less.